About three and a half years into my coaching journey, I met with my former client and now colleague, Dr. Caroline French who I discovered was in a very similar situation to me. During a discussion about our experiences, Caroline explained to me that she had a theory around how our unmet needs were the cause of many of our problems. This prompted an incredible moment of clarity for me and I quickly pieced everything together. It made sense of everything about my life and tied in everything that I had ever learnt on my personal development journey.

 

From this point on, we worked tirelessly and consistently on this theory and developed a framework around it. We continued to develop the theory over the next 14 months and during this time, as we applied what we learnt to ourselves, we both experienced extreme levels of empowerment that we’d never had before. We felt in control of our lives and finally began taking the action we’d always wanted to. Decisions became clear and were easier to make. Unhealthy relationships ended, enriching relationships were established, self-sabotaging behaviour came to an end. We had a clear focus on our priorities and followed through on them. We began un-doing our fawn responses, we spoke up for ourselves and we each began building a solid sense of self. We no longer felt like a disaster inside.

 

We now both feel a genuine level of contentment and satisfaction that is neither temporary or superficial, as it once used to be. Other clients experience similar transformations and we continue to develop this theory everyday with encouragingly positive results.